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The 36 Questions
That Lead to Love



(On a phone,
swipe from right to left
to move)

First formulated in 1997,
"The 36 Questions That Lead to Love"
is a study by psychologist Dr. Arthur Aron.

It helps to increase closeness
between individuals by engaging them in
"reciprocal self-disclosure."

If honestly answered by both the individuals,
they can even fall in love.

Set-I

1.

Given the choice of anyone
in the world,
whom would you want as a
dinner guest?

2.

Would you like to be famous?
In what way?

3.

Before making a telephone call,
do you ever rehearse
what you are going to say?

Why?

4.

What would constitute
a “perfect” day
for you?

5.

When did you last sing to yourself?
To someone else?

6.

If you were able to live to the age of 90
and retain either the mind or body
of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life,
which would you want?

7.

Do you have a secret hunch
about how you will die?

8.

Name three things you and
your partner
appear to have in common.

9.

For what in your life
do you feel most grateful?

10.

If you could change
anything about the way you were raised,
what would it be?

11.

Take four minutes
and tell your partner your life story
in as much detail as possible.

12.

If you could wake up tomorrow
having gained any one quality or ability,
what would it be?

Set-II

13.

If a crystal ball could tell you
the truth about yourself,
your life, the future, or anything else,
what would you want to know?

14.

Is there something
that you've dreamed of doing for a long time?
Why haven’t you done it?

15.

What is the
greatest accomplishment of your life?

16.

What do you value most
in a friendship?

17.

What is your most treasured memory?

18.

What is your most terrible memory?

19.

If you knew that in one year
you would die suddenly,
would you change anything about the way
you are now living?
Why?

20.

What does friendship mean to you?

21.

What roles do love
and affection play in your life?

22.

Alternate sharing something
you consider a positive characteristic
of your partner.

Share a total of five items.

23.

How close and warm is your family?
Do you feel your childhood
was happier than most other people’s?

24.

How do you feel about
your relationship with your mother?

Set-III

25.

Make three true “we” statements each.
For instance,
“We are both in this room feeling…”

26.

Complete this sentence:
“I wish I had someone with whom I could share…”

27.

If you were going to become
a close friend with your partner,
please share
what would be important for them to know.

28.

Tell your partner
what you like about them;
be very honest this time, saying things
that you might not say
to someone you’ve just met.

29.

Share with your partner
an embarrassing moment in your life.

30.

When did you last cry in front of another person?
By yourself?

31.

Tell your partner something
that you like about them [already].

32.

What, if anything,
is too serious to be joked about?

33.

If you were to die this evening
with no opportunity to communicate with anyone,
what would you most regret
not having told someone?
Why haven’t you told them yet?

34.

Your house, containing everything you own,
catches fire.
After saving your loved ones and pets,
you have time to safely make a final dash
to save any one item.
What would it be? Why?

35.

Of all the people in your family,
whose death would you find most disturbing?

Why?

36.

Share a personal problem
and ask your partner’s advice on how
they might handle it.

Also, ask your partnseter to reflect back to you
how you seem to be feeling
about the problem you have chosen.

That's all!

Thank you for being such a good human, my friend.